Embracing My Strap-On

If you’ve peaked around my blog, you’ve probably discovered that Hubby and I enjoy pegging play. Yet, our sex life hasn’t always entailed this fetish. After struggling with my own negative mindsets associated with male anal play, I finally gave in to Hubby’s desires and gave it a whirl. Now, I think I enjoy my strap-on more than him.

However, it took me a long time to get to the place where I could take pleasure in pegging Hubby. The first time, Hubby hinted at wanting me to play with his anus the only thought in my head was, ‘he must be gay’. I found myself questioning everything about my husband’s sexuality. At that time, little did I know that a male enjoying anal sex has nothing to do with being a homosexual.

A long time after I’d thought that his fantasy had fallen to the wayside, Hubby brought up the subject up again. Although I was willing to consider using a strap-on, I still struggled a bit. Not taking this endeavor lightly, I began to investigate all I could about pegging play. Although I still wasn’t ready to jump in, I wanted to know all I could and figure out why my husband of 14 years wanted me to do this to him. I didn’t realize that by showing an interest in pegging, I was feeding his fantasy making him want it more than ever.

Finally giving in, I decided to purchase my first strap-on harness and dong. With all the struggles I encountered on this journey, the thing I wanted most was to feel comfortable pegging Hubby. However, our first night using our new toys was awkward, to say the least. I struggled with getting the harness to fit right, how to get the dong into him and then how to move. Practice makes perfect and Hubby was ready to experiment all the time. However, I wasn’t so eager. To be honest, I found the whole thing kind of weird and boring. Hubby was feeling all this pleasure, and I was left wondering when he’d be done so I could have fun too.  

At first, I had no idea how to conquer these issues. After reluctantly sharing my feelings with Hubby, he found an instructional video for us to watch together. Watching that video really helped me figure out the mechanics of pegging; however, I was still board. Then it dawned on me, tuck a bullet vibe down inside of my harness while we play. After trying out a few different styles of vibes, I finally found the perfect one to use with my strap-on. Needless to say, the first night that everything worked just right was explosive. I never in a million years imagined that it could feel so good to have an orgasm with Hubby this way.

Now when we I strap on my dong, I embrace it. I feel sexy, confident and proudly strut around teasing Hubby sometimes. Looking back over the years, I wonder why it took me so long to try pegging play. After missing out on years of fun, we have a lot to make up for and we do every chance we get.

Do you fantasize about how to get your lover to strap it on? Stop by ThatPosition’s blog and check out my guest blog post packed full of helpful ideas.